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Good on you, kid. Good on you. I think I need to take this opportunity to really let go; to be okay and let it be. Really let it be. You can’t move on when you’re on a treadmill and that’s what I feel like I’ve been doing. I need to get off the treadmill and go out into the world. No more shitty dating… No. I’m done with that non-sense. But I’m not ready to date. I’ve proven that to myself of late, breaking a heart here or there. Not good, yet not a surprise either… I’ve been form of an asshole for a while, something I’m not ashamed to say, but it’s getting… old. As am I. I am old. I’m and pouting. So, look. I know you’re not going to read this. But when I say “fuck you” just know it’s not a real honest-to-goodness “fuck you.” It’s just, you know, fuck you for doing better; for being first and probably for being wiser.
I’m mad that I still miss “us.” But I do. I still do… Even after all this time I still feel it. I’m going to sleep these feelings off and own them, truly own them and put them to rest. How? By doing this. By acknowledging my feelings, giving them the attention they deserve.imlive . com By talking about them and letting them breathe. In time, I’ll be over and done with this and I’ll be truly ready to close this chapter. Goodbye. Oh yeah, and, um, fuck you. — Your ex Signup for Our Newsletter Get Us in Your Inbox! Online Dating, Sex, and Relationship Advice Tips in Your Inbox… Follow @theurbandater Like this:Like Loading… Share This Article Facebook4Tweet0Pin0 Posted in: Self Tagged in: break ups Are you just completely jaded? Stuck in a dating rut? Ready to revamp your entire dating routine?
Here are seven simple steps to a fulfilling and healthy dating slate you can take on this summer. 1) Taking the first step: If you truly want to partake in a dating hiatus this summer, be mindful and be consistent with your intentions. Be reasonable too. If you’re used to casually dating every week, then 1-2 months is a good refresher. If you’ve been in a long-term serious relationship for 3 years, then no 1-month diet no matter how magical is going to shed all the heavy burdens away. 2) Cutting Calories: The more immediate, the better. The more instantly gratifying, the faster you need to cut it off. On top of this list is the sugary and fast junk food that is the dating app. Goodbye OkCupid, Tinder, and PlentyofFish! You don’t need to delete accounts, but at least disable them. You’ll crave them shortly after, but that’s natural and necessary.
You’ll adapt with time. This stage isn’t exclusive to dating apps. Another interpretation is leaving a dating situation in which you know is unsatisfying and short-lived. This could mean the guy you are Way not into or the girl who you’ve been FWB’ing with forever and is also waiting for you to “be ready for a relationship.” That X-large Snickers may taste really, really good but you know it’s going to cost you later. Side-effects- withdrawal symptoms. Get ready for some lows. Frustration. Impatience. With some bouts of anger and self-deprecation. All’s good though. Pain is weakness leaving the body. Detox the unnecessary clutter.
3) Indulging: It’s okay to sneak in some guilty pleasures here and there. Yes, this means a casual hook-up or untimely rendezvous with a charming stranger ( Not too strange now). And this can also mean indulging in memories. Here are some hearty recipes for reference- “Ex” Benedict Recipe (8 strips of salty and sweet flirty text. 2 tablespoons of fresh parsley. 4 eggy memories that have an acquired taste). “One-who-got-away” Madelines (1 teaspoon of bittersweet, vanilla extract. A pinch of salt on where needs salt. 2 cups of sugary sweet nothings). “Soulmate” Chop suey (1.5 cups of corn starch for picking things up. 2 spicy garlic gloves. Pound of sweet, baby bok choy. Hearty and cloudy chicken broth). 4) Experimenting: Memory Lane has its perks. By doing so, you could remember the vast and varied dating history that you have encountered.
When you reach this step, you want to be open to new experiences- things that you have never tasted before. For example, these are the health nut foods that either becomes a huge win or loss- Acai. (Try dating someone completely out of your typical physical type. Maybe they’re heavier. They’re shorter. They’re blonde instead of a brunette. Maybe he doesn’t have freckles). Kefir. (Date someone that does not fit your typical schemata of someone you date ever. If you usually date “nerds,” date a “jock” for a change. Maybe you usually date machismo figures. So look for someone more feminine. Date outside of your usual age, culture, nationality, or lifestyle.
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Sapiosexuals, environmentalists, productive potheads, polyamorous enthusiasts, religious zealots, musicians, freegans, philosophers, and daredevils are some of my top picks). Noni. (Try flirting or scoring a date in the most unlikely place to score a date. This will force you to amp up your dating skills. And what is a better way to re-route a dating cycle than to instill daily challenges? See if you can get a number while waiting in a line at Target, “bumping” into a colleague/ co-worker in the street, or striking up rapport at your local Meetup). Don’t be concerned about things not working out. That’s bound to happen. You taste foreign things; you’re bound to spit at least one out. But isn’t it better that you tried it? By undertaking these new things, you’re pushing yourself outside of your comfort zone and building a great foundation for this new and invigorating diet plan. 5) Savoring: It is at this stage, where you’ve successfully managed to cut off the excess that is sugary, high-fructose, easy, and validation-laden (Step #2). It is also at this stage that you’ve also taken out the rigidity and staleness from your system (from Experimenting in Step #5). This is when you will start to remember and awaken to what is really good for you-nourishment wise. Vitamins and nutrients do matter. You’ll remember that the right partner should motivate you, be patient with you, sneak kisses, appreciate your idiosyncrasies, inspire you to want to give to him/her often, make you feel sexy, make you feel giggly, and ultimately, make you a better you.
6) Shedding the Fat: Steps 1-5 are the harder parts. Step 6 is all about reaping the benefits. Once step 5 has culminated, good things will happen. You’ll become fitter, more practical, more endorphin-ridden. You’ll understand that you do not need to be on a date with someone this weekend in order to feel whole. You also understand, right now, you’re just not at a place to date anyone because you’re too busy applying for jobs, moving to a new place, or just honestly, you no longer have the patience to binge on summer flings. Instead, you have become very aligned and committed to the routine of paying attention to that significant other that is you. Aren’t you just sexy? 5) Maintaining: Eventually, because you are so busy being you and lovely at being you, someone else is bound to notice.
It’s okay then to let them in on part of the fabulous fitness routine. Just as long as they’re not egging you on or holding you back. Instead, you both will be side to side, kicking a** (together). Signup for Our Newsletter Get Us in Your Inbox! Online Dating, Sex, and Relationship Advice Tips in Your Inbox… Follow @theurbandater Like this:Like Loading… Share This Article Facebook1Tweet0Pin0 Posted in: Dating & Relationships, Self, Tips & Advice Tagged in: Dating Okay, so you probably won’t get punched in the neck on your first date. Which is a good thing, unless you’re into that sort of action. This article looks to dissect a few areas that can help make those first few dates successful ones… The article is geared more toward the guys out there, but women should be able to find some gold here, as well; from choosing a place to meet, finding what you should spend and how to keep things moving along if things are going well. What are the ingredients of a successful date? While the following list isn’t comprehensive, it does span some of the more important elements I feel are key to a successful date. Location, Location, Location When you’ve met someone that you want to meet up with and so they want to meet you then choosing a spot to meet up with is the next important step.
The importance of choosing a good spot to meet people is as crucial, I feel, to the conversation you and your date have.topadultreview.com The location you choose to meet shows the following: It shows your willingness to put thought into your date and find a place they might like; it shows that you are a person who is interested in trying good places and different things; and, believe it or not, the decor and ambiance of a good spot just makes you look better. Who doesn’t look better in dimly lit surroundings, with interesting artwork adorning the walls around you? To find what locations you should find, I think it is critical to cross off some locations you shouldn’t go to. Again, this is just my opinion. But for anyone going on a date looking for a place to meet, I would advise them against any chain establishments (there are exceptions to any rule, however). Specifically, I would steer clear of Starbucks, Friday’s, and the Movies (if it’s a first date, that is). The places I mentioned because they do lack originality and effort, I believe. Instead, I’d recommend you take a look at http://cityguide.com or http://yelp.com and look for places in your area. Get to know your community. Pick out a few potential spots that are well reviewed. You’re guaranteed to find a great spot. Good Conversation This one seems to be a given. A good conversation is essential to a good date. Though, I did find some times where conversation wasn’t so good, yet I still managed to have a good date. Weird, right?
Well, I can’t tell anyone how to be a good conversationalist.
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And the old adage, “be interesting” certainly holds true. How does one manage to be interesting? Read up on your current events. Knowing what’s going on in the world gives you plenty to share with you. Be excited about yourself when talking about your interests… But don’t be TOO excited. What that really means is that if you are interested and excited about who you are and what you do, so will your date. However, it’s a fine line. You don’t want to talk a lot of about yourself. More times than not you will find yourself listening more to your date and asking your date what they are interested in. I highly recommend that, actually. Don’t dominate the conversation. I pretty much touched on this on the previous bullet point. But it’s important enough to mention it again. Listen more than you talk, in most instances. Finding a good balance to a mutually beneficial conversation is key and is easy enough… Sometimes it’s not easy to gauge if we’ve been talking too much.
If you’re keen on body language, your date’s expressions and mannerisms can help you detect if you’ve gone blabbermouth. So pay attention. Ask questions. Most people like to talk about themselves, so ask questions. Don’t probe, however, if your date isn’t comfortable and try not to make it like an interview, which most dates with new people tend to be. Be funny, yet not at the expense of your date. Do you want to get punched in the neck? I didn’t think so. What to wear and other stuff… I’m no fashion expert so I’m not going to tell you what sort of clothing you should wear, but more a general guideline of what to think about. First off, what ever you do, don’t show up naked. That will not lead to a second date.
The thought you put into your date is more important than any label or trendy piece of clothing you choose to wear. After all, it really is the thought that counts. First impressions are important, so dress accordingly. Sometimes a t shirt and sneakers are not the way to go. Try upgrading the outfit with dress shoes, or non-athletic foot apparel. Instead of the t shirt, try an ironed button-up shirt. Tuck it in. Oh! The one fashion fumble I warn against is wearing white socks with black shoes. Any particular one just angers me and if you do that then you should get punched in the neck.
Regardless of what you don for your date it should look like you put thought and effort into it. A woman can tell, after all. In Short The theme that is most recurring in a date is thoughtfulness and being considerate. These things will show themselves without any explanation on your part. You need only take a few minutes to do the majority of the things mentioned. If you take time to do them, you’ll have a good date. Signup for Our Newsletter Get Us in Your Inbox! Online Dating, Sex, and Relationship Advice Tips in Your Inbox… Follow @theurbandater Like this:Like Loading… Share This Article Facebook1Tweet0Pin0 Posted in: Dating & Relationships, Tips & Advice Tagged in: advice, Dating Something I’ve thought lot about lately… Imperfection; how I don’t feel I measure up in a lot of ways. I read this bit below and something suddenly “clicked.” People fall in love with each other’s rough edges. Paradoxically, it’s our flaws and vulnerabilities that make us unique and endearing towards others. The more we’re willing to reveal where we come up short, the more intimacy and connection we’ll generate in our personal lives, and the happier and healthier we’ll be in the long run. — https://www.facebook.com/YesterdayMourningBook/posts/278371238993143 When I’m with someone I love/care about I get insecure. Very insecure, not to the point of paralysis, but enough to question why someone would even consider dating me. The fact is that I’ve fucked up a lot, made poor choices and shit all over some good things in my life. I’m not perfect, I’m very far from it, in fact. There’s a woman I’m seeing.
Within three dates I unloaded my shit on her. Kids, my family stuff, and a lot of my personal personal foibles… Guess what happened? She got closer and then she grabbed my hand, squeezed it and then she leaned on me. I almost burst into tears. Almost. Because man, baby, because man! Real talk, I was so moved by her simple gesture, I almost broke down. You see, I’ve had women run far and run fast when I opened myself up. I learned that opening up could cause a negative reaction. But you know what? I am who I am, for better or worse. If a someone runs the other way after they know who I am and where I’ve been, fuck em.
They’re just weeding my garden for me. It’s our idiosyncrasies and “rough edges” that make us real; that make us worth knowing and worth taking a risk on. Don’t hide yourself from those who matter most. Being vulnerable can open yourself to possibility… Signup for Our Newsletter Get Us in Your Inbox! Online Dating, Sex, and Relationship Advice Tips in Your Inbox… Follow @theurbandater Like this:Like Loading… Share This Article Facebook4Tweet0Pin0 Posted in: Online Dating, Tips & Advice Tagged in: 101 things I read a piece, by Melanie Curtain, over at EJ, about her top 3 sex problems. I suggest giving it a thorough once-over. I gave it a twice over. Sometimes you’re bad at sex. I’m not talking about you. I’m talking about me. Sometimes, probably many, many times, I’ve been pretty shitty at sex. While there are no sure-fire formulas on the how-to-sex right, I’d say a few general things apply: Listen to their body. Always start with a lower intensity level. Pay attention.
Be cozy with you and you do you as you do. Oh and don’t forget about you. You are a participant and your experience in this whole sex-business matters, too, goddammit! How does bad sex happen? The woman I’m seeing now… She would never say it to my face, but I’ve really borked sex with her more than a time or two. It’s not pretty. How does bad sex happen? It happens pretty easily, it turns out. It happens when we’re not paying attention; it happens when we “think” we’re so awesome at what we do and we think that if this technique worked on partner a, b, and c, then it must definitely work on the newest flame. Guess what? Bullshit, that’s what. Remember that gal I mentioned earlier? She doesn’t like to be touched in the ways I’ve thought women enjoyed being touched. She’s sensitive and ticklish and that’s not her problem.
It’s a bad habit I’ve gotten into in how I touch her, I’ve gotten better, but I had to swallow my personal pride. I had to accept that I’m not God’s gift to women. Each woman is different and is “required reading.” Bad sex can also happen when we don’t take care to listen to a woman’s body. A woman’s body and how it responds to stimulation is something I can’t possibly articulate accurately, only to say that it’s thing of beauty and a privilege to behold. This article isn’t meant to be a tutorial on how to make bad sex good. What I would say is that this is how being in touch with your partner’s body and how it reacts to what you do is key. But it’s not all about the physical… Mental stimulation is a big part of this as well. As Ms. Curtain writes in her article, she states that while she is comfortable with many masculine parts of her identity in various parts of her life, when it comes to sex, she wants to explore her feminine-most desires. She wants to feel like a woman and, to her, that means several things. She wants to be taken; she wants to be respected; she wants to feel masculine power work within her and perhaps take control or perhaps she wants to control the masculinity herself. Those thoughts and feelings are intricate, which is why it is critical to listen to her body, how she breathes, check-in with your own feelings and thoughts. This applies whether the fucking action is in full-effect or when things are softer and more sensual or anywhere within that spectrum. Pay attention. Tell her how she makes you feel when you’re taking her in; how she rides you; how her embrace makes you feel… Let her know how that makes you feel.
Does what you’re doing feel “hot?” Does it feel dirty? Let her know. It just happens and it’s okay. Learn and move on. Let’s be real for a moment. Bad sex is an eventuality. It’s okay when it does. Also, when you can’t make the other person come that’s also fine, it doesn’t mean they didn’t have a good time and that’s really the important part. A lot of emphases is placed on men to “be a nice guy” and finish last. I advocate that notion, but it doesn’t always happen and in case it doesn’t, you’re not a shit bag. I promise you. Just enjoy the experience, they certainly are. Sex isn’t like operating a tamale assembly line or some other process that may be automated. It’s a craft worthy of a lifelong desire to improve and get better.
Signup for Our Newsletter Get Us in Your Inbox! Online Dating, Sex, and Relationship Advice Tips in Your Inbox… Follow @theurbandater Like this:Like Loading… Share This Article Facebook3Tweet0Pin0 Posted in: Online Dating, Sex Via – the Free Repbulic – http://www.freerepublic.com/focus/chat/3033699/posts?page=21 Every woman seeks to find out something unique and exceptional about the man that she’s currently dating. This is usually done in the initial phases of a ‘relationship’ when a woman is still trying to gauge a man’s behavior and personality and carious other things that she first wants to investigate before giving the green signal. While you’re on the job, here are some helpful tips you should know regarding certain men that women avoid while dating: Yesteryear Casanova These guys love to live in the past where they claim to be a Casanova and cling on to those glorious college days where life was easy and fun and when there was zero responsibility. It could be quite manageable for a woman to put up with a guy like this for the first date and no more than that. These men are found to be still caught up in their adolescent days and are to be definitely avoided as they lack serious commitment and refrain to think about the present life. Without thinking twice, such men are to be thoroughly avoided and kept at a very far distance.